Beating the Holiday Blues When You Have an Autoimmune Condition and Live Alone
Holidays are a magical time—twinkling lights, cozy traditions, and festive cheer everywhere. But for many of us living with autoimmune conditions and flying solo, the season can feel less "Silent Night" and more silent nights. Between the physical challenges of our conditions and the isolation that can creep in, it’s easy to feel left out of the holiday magic.
But don’t pack up the tinsel just yet! There are ways to navigate the season with joy, connection, and some unexpected fun. Let’s dive into how you can beat the holiday blues, starting with a surprising ally: your phone or VR headset.
1. Game On: Connect Virtually
When you’re not up for the hustle and bustle, multiplayer games can be your ticket to instant connection. Whether it’s teaming up for a quest in a fantasy VR world or playing casual games like Among Us, Mario Kart Tour, or Gorilla Tag with friends, gaming creates opportunities to laugh, compete, and bond without leaving your sofa.
How to Get Started:
- Explore VR Social Spaces: Platforms like VRChat or Meta Horizon Worlds are great for chatting with people worldwide in a fun, immersive environment.
- Try Mobile Multiplayer Games: Download free apps like Words With Friends, UNO, or Animal Crossing: Pocket Camp. Bonus points: these games are gentle on your energy levels.
- Organize a Virtual Game Night: Send out invites to friends or family for a game night over Zoom or within the game itself.
Gaming not your thing? No problem—keep reading for more ways to connect.
2. Knock, Knock: Say Hi to Your Neighbours
It might feel daunting, but introducing yourself to neighbors can open doors (literally and figuratively). Share some holiday treats, or just say, “Hi, I’m your neighbour, and I’d love to connect.” Even a quick exchange can spark a friendship or at least give you someone to wave to during those solo winter walks.
3. Host a Tiny Holiday Gathering
If you have the energy, why not invite a few people over for a cozy gathering? Keep it low-key:
- Host a hot chocolate bar. (maybe dairy free!)
- Have a Christmas movie marathon.
- Decorate cookies together (you can even buy pre-made kits for simplicity).
4. Lean Into Holiday Tech Magic
Technology is your best friend. Here’s how to use it to feel connected:
- Facetime or Zoom Family and Friends: Make it festive by setting up a virtual gift unwrapping session.
- Join Online Communities: Reddit groups, Facebook pages, or Discord servers for people with autoimmune conditions can be comforting and uplifting.
5. Give Back, Feel Good
Volunteering is a powerful antidote to loneliness. Many charities offer remote opportunities like sending holiday cards to people in nursing homes or mentoring online. Helping others can boost your mood and make your holidays feel meaningful.
6. Find Local Festivities
If you’re up for it, explore your local area for free or low-cost holiday events like:
- Tree lightings.
- Community sing-alongs.
- Craft markets.
Even an hour soaking up the holiday vibes can work wonders for your spirit.
7. Create Your Own Traditions
Who says traditions need a crowd?
- Cook a Fancy Meal for Yourself: Choose recipes that feel festive but are easy on your energy (think one-pan meals or pre-prepped holiday boxes).
- Start a Gratitude Journal: Reflect on small wins and moments of joy throughout the season.
- Plan a Post-Holiday Treat: Book something to look forward to after the holiday season, like a spa day or a new show binge-fest.
8. Prioritize Self-Care
Managing an autoimmune condition means listening to your body, especially during busy seasons. Give yourself permission to:
- Say “no” to invitations that feel draining.
- Take naps when you need them.
- Enjoy quiet moments without guilt.
- Meditate, Maloka is a free to use app and has long been my favourite on Oculus Quest (not sponsored)
9. Reach Out for Support
Feeling overwhelmed? It’s okay to ask for help.
- Contact a friend, family member, or therapist.
- Join a holiday support group (many exist specifically for people navigating illness and loneliness).
The holidays can be tough, but they’re also an opportunity to rewrite the script and create a season that works for you. Whether it’s diving into a VR winter wonderland, baking cookies for neighbors, or simply indulging in some guilt-free rest, there are endless ways to make this season bright—even on your own.
🎄 Share the Holiday Cheer
Found these tips helpful? Share this blog with someone who might need a little extra holiday inspiration. Let’s spread the joy—and maybe some multiplayer game invites!
